This is such a great read and so much of it resonates - thank you. I love “performative singleness” and feel as if I’ve been acting this way for years - mainly to make other people feel ok.
I also love your analysis of self love. I’m very good at being alone but I think, if you also have control freak and perfectionist tendencies, you can be too good at it. When might the safety and comfort turn into boredom I wonder.
I wrote a piece very like this in the summer but it wasn’t half as good, so I’m so glad to read something like what I was trying to articulate myself!
Thank you so much for sharing, Faith—I'm really glad it resonated. You make such a good point that the art of being alone carries both strengths and shadows. Also, I would LOVE to read your post!
This is such a great read and so much of it resonates - thank you. I love “performative singleness” and feel as if I’ve been acting this way for years - mainly to make other people feel ok.
I also love your analysis of self love. I’m very good at being alone but I think, if you also have control freak and perfectionist tendencies, you can be too good at it. When might the safety and comfort turn into boredom I wonder.
I wrote a piece very like this in the summer but it wasn’t half as good, so I’m so glad to read something like what I was trying to articulate myself!
Thank you so much for sharing, Faith—I'm really glad it resonated. You make such a good point that the art of being alone carries both strengths and shadows. Also, I would LOVE to read your post!
I will dig it out again!