'I would argue that most women know what it is to have a not-entirely-healthy relationship with food (see: the “clean eating” movement of the 2010s).' - this is sooooo real. It's such a pervasive problem, yet all the boyfriends of the world are completely baffled by it!
Very much relatable. Especially on vacation, I always seem to have a big upset and hate my body even more. What’s sad to me is that I’ve gone back and read my journals throughout the years recently and when I was quite young I was already obsessing about it, tracking food and lamenting any shape or space i took up. The older I’ve gotten, the less I care tho, so that’s something!
Thank you for sharing, Morgan. It's so reassuring to know we're not alone in feeling like this! And I agree, even though it's very much still present, it does seem to ease with time and wisdom :)
This resonates soooooo much. It makes it even harder that those beauty standards still exist despite the body positivity movement, so now we’ve got equal amounts of pressure to both meet them AND be totally okay about not meeting them!
You’ve put it way more eloquently than I have, but what I’m trying to say is YES to this, haha. Amazing piece.
Great read Lucia - as a fellow slim women, I have also sadly had the self loathing that only a week in a bikini / sun dress can bring. I say this from a sun lounger in Greece with a belly role in my periphery that I am doing what I can to minimise. Yet nobody else could give a crap! What a waste of useful brain space. At least I’m enjoying all the food & wine this glorious country has to offer because not doing so would be a total travesty. Hope you managed it too - and were able to eventually wear your green dress with the confidence it deserves x
Thanks Anna, I absolutely did not let it get in the way of my ability to hoover up multiple plates of pasta! Hope you are having an equally glorious time soaking up the sun and can release some of that headspace x
I am neither a woman nor a millennial but what you have so eloquently written resonates all the same. I have long struggled to love my body even if, objectively, it is in great shape. It was not always so and I lost 15kg in search of happiness. I discovered, of course, that it was not my weight that was to blame for my unhappiness and that one must learn to love your body however it is. Super hard though.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Neil. From chatting to my partner, I know that body image and societal pressure can affect all genders! I kept wondering about this perspective when I was writing, so I really appreciate you sharing yours.
'I would argue that most women know what it is to have a not-entirely-healthy relationship with food (see: the “clean eating” movement of the 2010s).' - this is sooooo real. It's such a pervasive problem, yet all the boyfriends of the world are completely baffled by it!
Very much relatable. Especially on vacation, I always seem to have a big upset and hate my body even more. What’s sad to me is that I’ve gone back and read my journals throughout the years recently and when I was quite young I was already obsessing about it, tracking food and lamenting any shape or space i took up. The older I’ve gotten, the less I care tho, so that’s something!
Thank you for sharing, Morgan. It's so reassuring to know we're not alone in feeling like this! And I agree, even though it's very much still present, it does seem to ease with time and wisdom :)
This resonates soooooo much. It makes it even harder that those beauty standards still exist despite the body positivity movement, so now we’ve got equal amounts of pressure to both meet them AND be totally okay about not meeting them!
You’ve put it way more eloquently than I have, but what I’m trying to say is YES to this, haha. Amazing piece.
omg yes, you *have* put it so astutely here! thanks for sharing and I'm glad we can feel less alone in this.
Great read Lucia - as a fellow slim women, I have also sadly had the self loathing that only a week in a bikini / sun dress can bring. I say this from a sun lounger in Greece with a belly role in my periphery that I am doing what I can to minimise. Yet nobody else could give a crap! What a waste of useful brain space. At least I’m enjoying all the food & wine this glorious country has to offer because not doing so would be a total travesty. Hope you managed it too - and were able to eventually wear your green dress with the confidence it deserves x
Thanks Anna, I absolutely did not let it get in the way of my ability to hoover up multiple plates of pasta! Hope you are having an equally glorious time soaking up the sun and can release some of that headspace x
I am neither a woman nor a millennial but what you have so eloquently written resonates all the same. I have long struggled to love my body even if, objectively, it is in great shape. It was not always so and I lost 15kg in search of happiness. I discovered, of course, that it was not my weight that was to blame for my unhappiness and that one must learn to love your body however it is. Super hard though.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Neil. From chatting to my partner, I know that body image and societal pressure can affect all genders! I kept wondering about this perspective when I was writing, so I really appreciate you sharing yours.